I had to cancel our trip to see my Mom over Easter Break. We had to cancel our August Vacation to see her, too. Fuck Covid.
When lack of human contact had reached its peak, and I needed to travel across the country to social distantly visit my mom, I finally did…last week.
I felt like Rocky Balboa prepping a fight with Clubber. I booked my flight and ignored my emotions and planning for a week. I then studied about the flight precautionary stats, happy to see that the middle rows are open on Southwest, and the air quality and cleaning standards are upped incredibly. I got a Covid test from my doctor and waited 5 days for the clean bill of health.
I then purchased extra masks to double up…pulled out a hoodie to wear… rubber gloves, sanitizer, spray - rubbing alcohol, cleaning wipes, a face shield, oxygen meter, thermometer…….and xanex.
When I arrived at my mom’s house I spent four days with a mask on and socially distant to her. My bedroom was my chilly “open-window” haven, to rip off my mask and breathe.
So, so surreal….
The craziest thing is when I landed on the plane I got a text that tRump and Melania had Covid. So, that suggestion that I “leave my phone down and ignore the news” was null and void.
My anxiety hit a peak the second night I was here, as I made a covid testing appointment at 3am on the internet to have another test to confirm I did not catch it on the plane. (I did cancel it the next morning when I realized I may have been paranoid and I did not want to fight with my insurance for any reason at all 3 weeks in the future for not getting approval out of state….). I did buy extra tylenol, cough drops, zinc, and horseradish as my head convinced myself I had plane covid.
It’s been amazing, seeing my mom. Sometimes we need to make choices. I am glad I made this choice after months of contemplating.
One of my plans here, while visiting mom and while socially distant myself with her for many days, was to create art, and to document this incredible Autumn foliage, since I never get to New England during the Fall. So I did.
Today as I was poking through my closet (ok, my old closet I still have teenage shit in…)… I found Irving. Irving was my dad’s ventriloquist dummy who I have adored since a kid.
I decided I needed a portrait with Irving. Today was a perfect day for me to connect with my dad through my camera. I wanted to give life to Irving through my photography as my dad gave him life through his ventriloquism. I realized as I looked at the bag label “US Army”, that my dad having this dummy with him while he served in the Army is the reason why I am who I am. My Awesome Dad brought a Ventriloquist Doll with him in the Army!
No excuses…be who I want to be. Entertain and make art. I will and I do. Just as my dad did.
Along with these images, I designed 6 more other “Chameleon” sessions this week for shooting. It makes me so happy. These included Apple Picking, RBG, my Great Grandfather’s Farm, My Great Grandmother’s Phone, Changing Leaves, Witches, and Martha Washington.
After the 4th day with my mom, I did remove my mask and hugged her at night instead of “elbowing” her. It was the hardest decision to make.
Here is my ode to my dad up in heaven. He has showed me many signs this week. Here is my thank you to him.